LJ is hardly unisex; it's very, very female. I love it for that, in part because I've never been comfortable within the group of my gender, but mostly because it serves as a corrective to the male-dominated discourse of mainstream society. But a female space like LJ, typified by many traditionally female virtues, will become obsolete in the feminist justice utopia--which I think will be marked more by radical plurality than by homogeneity (assuming it is actually realizable).

It's certainly disorienting being in an environment where male privilege doesn't work as one is used to, where everyone assumes one is female (well, I meta enough that that doesn't happen as much as it used to), where the gendered experiences one has had aren't spoken to and the specific gendered needs aren't catered to (when one has been so used to all of these things being the case that one takes them for granted), and there have been notable instances of male fans complaining about feeling fandom to be exclusionary. Do I think they are full of their own privilege? Absolutely. But the fact remains that LJ's space is unproblematic because it stands in relation (and resistance!) to a stronger, more problematic space, giving an oppressed class a female space in which to breathe. Take that away and it is hardly what one would strive for.

The problem is imagining a unisex society where everyone isn't just being (the social construction of) female (even if some are what we would call biologically male) or (the social consruction of) male (with vice versa) but truly unisex. I'm not convinced it's possible for someone over the age to be able to imagine such a world. Compare the difficulty of imagining a racially integrated "melting pot" world (in terms of cultures, not just legal rights) that's not just all the non-white people assimilated into what has been traditionally "white" culture. What would it look like? How would people speak? Think? Worship? It's the "everything would be okay if they just acted exactly like me" issue.