I agree with you that it is important for feminist theory to portray women not only as victims, but also to look at ways women have historically been able to resist patriarchy (Joan of Arc, Margery Kempe, Julian of Norwich) (while being able to propblematize those examples) and ways they can continue to do so today. Failing to do this would indeed in some ways perpetuate the superstructures feminist theory is in opposition. Good feminist theory is thus aware of these tensions and tries to navigate them successfully, looking at the intricacies of vasrious female subject-positions. Obviously, some works of feminist theory are better at it than others.

At the same time, women are often victims in our society. To take worries about portraying women as victims too far can ignore real victimizations. I had a conversation on LJ with a woman who once blamed rape on feminism, for constructing rape victims as victims. No, sorry--rape is the fault of rapists, and is a victimizing crime. And likewise, I do believe that patriarchy and male privilege exist, and that they objectively hurt women.

Beyond that, I didn't write feminist theory; none of the ideas above are new to me. I couldn't and I shouldn't, although I do think mine can be a useful voice in refining it. But as a white het male in a society which affords me enormous amounts of privilege, my duty is to listen and to learn. Feminist theory is what an amazing group of women--my mother, my teachers, my professors, and my friends, not to mention the female theorists and authors themselves, through their work--has taught me.