Fair enough, but...the people I grew up around who talk like Sam and Dean are not misogynists, and I'm suspicious of the motives of people who are obviously not working-class Southerners who judge them because they don't talk like middle-class people who have gone to college and taken gender studies, queer theory and racial studies? Particularly Dean--Sam probably did take some of that stuff as an occasional elective and he stares at Dean sometimes the way I sometimes stare at my first husband who is still my friend (married at 19 divorced at 21, ain't West Virginia grand?) but also not a misogynist.

The people I grew up around who talk like my brother (who is in fact a misogynist as well as a racist and a homophobe), are misogynists. I'm not sure I can completely quantify the difference, but I might give it a shot sometime if I don't have to do it from a defensive position. (I really hate the way serious and potentially illuminating discussions get hostile and turn into wank in fandom.)