How can I use femslash to learn to hit on Real Live Wimminz if it's not realistic?

I mean, for all those witches and vampire-slayers and elves and starship pilots and medieval princesses who abound in my life, that I might like to hit on and just need to learn the secret techniques that work in femslash.

Or, wait, is "improve RL f/f relationships" maybe not the purpose of femslash?