I would have thought that Bobby wasn't interesting enough to loathe, but I saw your explanation in your journal. I have my own issues with the Rogue/Bobby/Kitty dynamic as well, mostly that Rogue's jealousy towards Kitty is sold as having to do with her mutation, and that doesn't make sense to me (as it assumes that the only thing Bobby would see in Kitty is being able to touch her, which is rather demeaning).

Bobby's the obvious conduit for the het male gaze, being the easiest point to use to insert myself into the story in relation to Rogue and/or Kitty.