My opinion, not representative of any larger community:
I wouldn't use poly for serial monogamy in a story (it starts out Buffy/Angel and then becomes Buffy/Faith) or cheating (Buffy/Angel, Buffy/Faith, but Angel is not aware that Buffy and Faith are together.
I would use poly for a situation where everyone was aware of one another, whether or not everyone is in a relationship with everyone else (so either Buffy/Angel/Faith or Buffy/Angel and Buffy/Faith, where Angel and Faith are aware of and accepting of what's going on). Does that make sense?
In my experience, most poly people I know in RL are in multiple relationships rather than everyone-in-bed-together (A/B, A/C, B/D, rather than A/B/C), while most fanfic seems to be about everyone-in-bed-together. . .
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Date: 2009-11-18 08:39 pm (UTC)I wouldn't use poly for serial monogamy in a story (it starts out Buffy/Angel and then becomes Buffy/Faith) or cheating (Buffy/Angel, Buffy/Faith, but Angel is not aware that Buffy and Faith are together.
I would use poly for a situation where everyone was aware of one another, whether or not everyone is in a relationship with everyone else (so either Buffy/Angel/Faith or Buffy/Angel and Buffy/Faith, where Angel and Faith are aware of and accepting of what's going on). Does that make sense?
In my experience, most poly people I know in RL are in multiple relationships rather than everyone-in-bed-together (A/B, A/C, B/D, rather than A/B/C), while most fanfic seems to be about everyone-in-bed-together. . .