carmarthen has a
post here where she refers to
this post by
kalpurna and she (for both values of "she") talks about romantic friendships. And this made me think about the romantic parent-child relationship Ari sees in
her reading of Matilda and the romantic sibling relationship I see in my reading of
The Parent Trap (more about that when I write my
yuletide letter), and about the overarching concept of non-inherently sexual--but eminently sexualizable, as Ari and I both make that jump more or less without thinking, and I guess my main point in this post is that maybe there is a jump there, and there is a trans-category "romance" which isn't inherently sexual--romance in general. (And my mind goes back to my Yuletide letter again--how does this relate to the Carmen/Player dynamic in
WoEiCS? canon?)
Taken as granted that we as--I want to say "slashers" but that's not even a term with which I really identify (I'm a femslasher), but as those of us who do this highly sexualized fanfic thing
kalpurna talks about in her essay, who inhabit this queer female space (he says, being neither queer nor female)--use sex as a metaphor for emotional intimacy, would it be accurate to say that, at heart, what it is we are doing is sexualizing "romance"? (And how does hatesex/antagonistic relationships fit into that paradigm?)