(NB: I am a tag wrangler and one of the reasons I became one was to work through some of the issues I had with the tagging system when it comes to pairings, sexuality, and gender, but I'm not speaking as an official anything right now.)
Everyone else has made the point about ethical non-monogamy, poly versus cheating, etc. so I'll skip that.
One thing I run into when thinking about what tags to apply to my fic is poly versus threesomes, foursomes, or moresomes because I'm not sure whether I think the emotional relationship is what is necessary for me to tag a fic poly (and therefore I want to tag fics where it is just sex as threesomes or whatever instead) or if I want to tag anything ethical non-monogamy as poly fic. Because though I identify as poly whether I'm emotionally involved with more than one person or not (or with anyone or not), I think there may be a difference in the storytelling of multiple emotional pairings versus multiple sexual pairings. I don't know, though.
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Date: 2009-11-19 02:00 am (UTC)Everyone else has made the point about ethical non-monogamy, poly versus cheating, etc. so I'll skip that.
One thing I run into when thinking about what tags to apply to my fic is poly versus threesomes, foursomes, or moresomes because I'm not sure whether I think the emotional relationship is what is necessary for me to tag a fic poly (and therefore I want to tag fics where it is just sex as threesomes or whatever instead) or if I want to tag anything ethical non-monogamy as poly fic. Because though I identify as poly whether I'm emotionally involved with more than one person or not (or with anyone or not), I think there may be a difference in the storytelling of multiple emotional pairings versus multiple sexual pairings. I don't know, though.